Sunday, September 14, 2008

Birthday for a dreamer

Today's Lu's birthday. He isn't here to celebrate it with us, but I'm sure he's celebrating the event in his most preferred style - at the beach, windsurfing, hanging out with some very special people all day, perhaps making and sharing shrimp cocktails or some such seafood delight while listening to some great music in his combi. That's how I envision him anyway. From what he said when he called last night, the weather has been cooperating where he is, seemingly to be able to give him his true birthday wish! And if such is not to be, he'll be OKAY with whatever does happen.

So Happy Birthday Lu Len. This one's for you:

I remember when you were conceived, can you believe that? Yep, we were in Texas and had just gotten over a separation. Your dad played a trick on me and it worked and I had to return to him and the next thing I knew it was the xmas season and we were back together, though shakily, and then I was pregnant, and your dad was dubious about the wisdom of having another kid, until I told him after a couple of days that I knew it was a boy. From then on, he was all for the pregnancy, believing me in my total certainty that you were going to be a boy!

I know your name came out kind of strange - your first and middle name make up such a turbo-charged combo. They're each packed with history and significance - and maybe together, they have had some influence in turning you into the person you've become. Let's analyze this.

Your first name is for the first name of your paternal grandfather - though when you think about it, that wasn't really his first name at all! But he adopted it, just as he adopted the whole being behind the name. So you're carrying that in your personal history and maybe it's had something to do with the way you have tried on different personalities, ideas, styles, etc. throughout your life so far.

But let's not forget your middle name - after the person who's life and work made such a difference in the world as we know it today. The creativity of his overwhelming, wide-sweeping musical approach had much to do with the 60's consciousness-raising intentions to save the world! Could being his namesake make you prone to absorbing his philosophy, musical awareness, anarchistic disregard for convention, and total immersion in love?

Whatever the reasons that have come together to make you who you are, the fact of the matter remains that you are one unique individual, someone who lives on the outskirts of the norm, poised at the edge of reality, submerged in the "what if?" of Life's possibilities, attuned to both the blatant and the subtle elements of music, art, and taste buds, ever-attentive to the fine line between inflexibility and possibility when it comes to questions of mechanics, electricity, and the sciences.

On first sight, many have noted a physical likeness to Jesus of Nazareth. Others simply find you attractive, though "hippy-ish". Your sibs criticize you for your lack of interest in grooming and choice of apparel. But underneath your clothes (as Shakira would say) you are quite a man. Maybe later on, you'll develop self-pride in your physical appearance; at any rate, who am I to fault you on your complete disinterest in the subject when you probably got it from me?!

Throughout your school years, you were boy wonder. Yesterday, I was looking for a paper I needed, and I found a whole folder of your certificates and diplomas, and marveled at some of them: Award for 'Student of the Year' in kindergarten! First in the city in an electronics project in Jr. High, first in the zone in science, best average of your grade, etc., etc. Somewhere along the way, you became disillusioned with school... maybe it was the year that you went to that parochial school.

And then, you entered the university, full of fascination for philosophy. What turned you against it? Was it really the fact that there was nowhere to go with such a degree, or that the faculty and the student body kept shrinking semester after semester? Or were you afraid of having to actually decide on and write a thesis? I can understand that - it must be mind-boggling to have to write a thesis on something related to philosophy!!! I mean, philosophizing on paper over philosophical questions has got to be one of the scariest prospects imaginable, in terms of theses. It could lead to an interminable amount of writing!!!

So you didn't finish school - you opted for deep reading on your own time, while looking for something else to do as your main activity. And you never lacked for projects!! Remember the windsurf board that you studied about, engineered, built and used? Remember the photography phase, where you took some incredible shots around these parts, and of people you knew, and then studied them and tried to get to a more professional level? Most of all, remember all the projects you carried out around the house and on the different vehicles?

Speaking of vehicles, this latest project of yours - your Lety dream-van - really took it out of you. I couldn't believe it when you brought her home for the first time - a totally useless old combi that would need more work than anyone would ever want to have to do to make her serviceable again. But you were adamant, and you actually did end up driving her!!! You worked like a slave or like a blind worshipper over her, and before you left, she was running!

So what do I wish for you LuLen? I wish you a life that is always filled with ideas and projects and dreams; I wish for you good talks, good wine, good deeds and good vibes among good friends. I wish for you a new insight into what you yourself want for the future. Most of all, I'm just grateful that I've gotten to have you in my life these past 26 years. Loving you and having your love have made the day-to-day something extraordinary and not to be taken lightly.

Before I close: some special LuLen moments:
One of your first words - when you were only 2 years old, being able to recognize and separate the VW Bug from any other car and denominating it: the "Tíjilil".
Following Car around whenever he was doing engine work and learning how to handle tools (one of which you dropped down the patio drain) when you were 3.
Running around the house EVERY DAY between 4 and 5 in the afternoon, making motor sounds and rambling on and on with a whole spiel about: "La mesa es la novia del Meso", "El Plátano es el novio de la Plátana", etc. etc....
Making that film documentary (spoof?) of our household that had us all practically peeing in our pants, especially when you opened the door to CLo's room!
The time you fixed the carburator on the drive up from Yucatán with the help of a Trucker I flagged down (I think you were about 11).
Learning how to drive so that you could be Car's driver at age 14.
Making all those weird noises - animal farm style - and being able to quote any line at random from any movie you've seen.
I could go on and on, but I'll save some stuff for next birthday.

Have a happy birthday LU and many many more!

3 comments:

MiMi said...

A beautiful Happy Birthday tribute to L. We hope he sailed, partied, and had a wonderful DAY!

Many, many more very HAPPY BIRTHDAY'S, L!!

MiMi & PoPPy

That girl said...

This was a very beautiful tribute to your son's birthday.

Very lovingly done, I can clearly see how much you love him :-)

minshap said...

andré: hope Lu saw your comment... I sent him my bloglink, but who knows if he actually tuned in!
mimi: he did all those things (I heard later, and also saw a concert I believe! Another b'day boy is coming up and then it'll be your turn! and then andré's turn!!! yikes!
that girl: oh, coming from a mother who REALLY knows how to love her kids, I certainly appreciate your comment! Thanks so much - and keep up the good work with your kids (have been following your blog for awhile now!)!