Saturday, July 26, 2008
Nothing to bitch about
That can't be true!!! There must be something I feel passionate about and in fact there are many things I do have deep convictions about. But writing about them in an e-mail??? ¡¡Qué flojera!!! (makes me tired just to think about it).
HOWEVER, a blog is the place for this kind of writing! And that's exactly what I added at the end of my e-mail, in apology for not writing something deeper in the e-mail. So, since I virtually told her to take a look at my blog if she wanted to see my thoughts on deeper issues, I'd better start posting such things... along with the tomato updates of course.
And if anyone reading this has anything they think should be bitched about, leave a comment here.
Okay then, so let's talk about bitching! My feeling here is that: If you've gotta bitch, bitch to the right person(s). I truly believe that there is no reason to bitch to anyone about anything they are not directly involved with. If I have a problem with someone or some situation, I will look for the person(s) who can do something about it. I will then bitch at great length (if need be) until I've gotten my point across. Some examples:
1) I bitch to the bagpackers at the supermarkets if they start putting things in bags when it's unnecessary (some things come in their own bag!) or when they put too few things in one bag and then start to fill another one. I try to arrive at the supermarket toting my own bag but it doesn't always work out that I have one on hand when I'm in the vicinity and we need things from there. In cases where a bagger starts overdoing it, I bitch, apologize for bitching, and then smile encouragingly as I ask them to see that they actually have the power to make a difference in conserving the environment.
2) I bitch to anyone who tries to sell me anything in styrofoam. I tell them it's utterly unnecessary and should be on its way out of our universe. If they don't seem to care, I ask to talk to their boss and tell that person. I bitch to my kids' teachers when they want the kids to do projects involving styrofoam. I ask my kids to bitch to their teachers and the school authorities about that, about using too much printer ink for projects they have to turn in, about not letting the kids use recycled paper for their printed projects, etc. etc. And when I go to the meetings, either at work or at my kids' schools, I make my point on these kinds of issues.
3) I bitch to authorities by way of letters (or e-mail). The last time I did this was a few months ago, when the university tried to charge me a huge fee simply for being a foreigner. They didn't care that I actually live and have residency in this country. I wrote the best letter I could, did about 3 revisions, read it to a few people and asked for their comments, made more revisions, and finally sent it. My letter was read and answered: my proposal (to be charged as a Mexican) was accepted, which of course gave me a lovely sense of satisfaction, though you shouldn't think for a minute that I get such positive results every time I write a letter of protest or complaint!
4) I bitch to each of my kids INDIVIDUALLY about their INDIVIDUAL shortcomings, when that's how it is; of course, if they all have the same shortcoming, I bitch to them as a group!
5) I bitch to myself the most of all!!!! I bitch about all the things I keep saying I'm going to do and then don't do.
So where does it get me- all this bitching?
It gets me here... keying about it in my blog.
Thursday, July 24, 2008
Tomato progress and reflections on an Intercultural Seminar
Also, I'm experimenting in sprouting some tomato seeds in cotton (remember those kindergarten projects with the frijol in a piece of damp cotton???). I read that they "take" better if you put them in a warm place - like on top of the fridge - so that's what I'm going to do. I'll post a picture of those little planters on Saturday.
Meanwhile, just a word of thanks to some people who inadvertantly provided input for an intercultural seminar I was asked to help out with yesterday. I was the "expert" as the German woman who led it introduced me. The seminar was for some Mexicans who are going to be living in the US for 3 years. They came with their families to this session to learn about the history, customs, people, lifestyle, etc. of the US. Pretty ambitious for a 10-hour session. I was supposed to give some info on the do's and don'ts, as well as the holidays and their significance. So I looked up a lot of stuff in Wikipedia and found such interesting things! Like the original history of American Labor Day - which is not the same date as Labor Day around the world. Read up on it here. It will surprise you. Ditto with Martin Luther King Jr. , Presidents Day, Veteran's day, and on down the line! Really spent some fun time reading up on all those things. I also found an expat forum that was fun to surf, and also took a survey from ale's blog - where she talked about 5 things she likes and 5 she doesn't like about the US, and also some observations from the girl from Villahermosa who lives in UK - about sneezing - that was so true!!!! And also, some wonderful comments from fned about what it means to be an expat, and how it contributes to your growth... I'm telling you I arrived with enough things to talk about, read about and mull over to last us for a week at that seminar. I even had a short clip from YOUtube showing Shirley Temple doing a dance with Bill "BoJangles" in her Littlest Rebel film (re: Civil War history, American public movie-going during Depression)...
And then it turned out we didn't use any of it!!!! The lead speaker needed to finish with her topics, which included the dates I'd looked up, so I did get to use some of that info. Then there were the issues of drivers licenses and universities, where she would turn to me to corroborate things, or to give my "expert" opinion about these and other such situations that came up. I didn't feel comfortable being put in that role since I haven't really lived in the States for so long, so when I got to talk about something, I ended up asking the participants what they thought about things (some of them had already been to the States a few times) and they all participated quite well! So much so, that there was no time to get to all those other subjects!!! But thanks anyway to those bloggers I mentioned... and keep blogging!
Sunday, July 20, 2008
New Project - Tomato Garden (2nd Attempt)!
I figure the soil is still pretty much fertilized after the last time. And by weeding so thoroughly in that section, I tilled and turned over the earth pretty well. I planted 2 rows of tomatoes - one row on each side - and chile serrano and cilantro in the two inner rows (see picture below). I got completely mosquito-bitten, my pants and shoes got pretty dirty, my back hurt by the end, but my hands were more or less saved by the use of heavy gardening gloves.
Now I've got the patch all watered and seeded (see photo above), and what's the next step? I'm gonna have to FORCE MYSELF to check on this little garden 3 times during the next week... the way the weeds grew the last time, I need to be on top of that, and pull them out before they overrun everything again (I did find (but couldn't save) two cilantro plants in all those weeds!) My goal is to see some tomato, chile, and cilantro plants in each of the rows by August 17th (four weeks). If you've got any suggestions to help me get there, please don't hesitate to enter them!
And now: GET THIS:
ANYONE WHO READS THIS ENTRY UP TO THIS POINT IS HEREBY "TAGGED" FOR THE FOLLOWING:
1 - For a period of 4 weeks, you must work and report your progress on a project of your own choice, documenting the results as they occur.
2 - You can take the time you need to decide on your project and then you write an opening "DAY ONE" description, with an introductory photo, and your expectations for the end-result.
3 - If you are "in" (oh please say you'll do it!), you need to leave word in the comments section so we all know who we are and then we can all keep track of each others' progress and offer support, advice, links that could help or whatever.
4 - Each week, you will post three times (whichever days you want, but three times a week) with photos showing progress. Or simply a description of what has developed since the previous post. You can give a shout out for help or moral support in these posts, or you can brag all you want, or whatever! If you post three times a week, you'll have a total of 12 posts showing the progress and final accomplishment, but hell, I'm no slavedriver; post only once a week if that's all you can manage - just keep it steady!
5 - At the end of the 4-week period, we'll have a documented chain of events that has led us each, in our individual projects, from point "A" to point "B"! Something we can later look back on with a sense of satisfaction! If our projects don't seem to be coming out right, we'll know early on, and we can take steps to repair the situation. Maybe we'll even need more than 4 weeks, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.
6 - So are you in???? Let's do this!!! Pass the word so we can get a network of people working on something interesting for one month and sharing the outcome - as it happens - with others. Maybe someone will hit on a project that we can all contribute to from our different areas of the globe! Now that would be cool!
P.S. If you don't want to do it, I can understand... I just got so caught up in the idea of being able to work alongside others, each of us doing our own thing, but matching our paces and learning from each others' ways of doing things... I thought it would be so neat. But if you've done it before or if you don't have time, or if you don't have a blog to be able to blog your progress, or whatever the obstacle may be - maybe you just don't want to do it - well, I can understand and I'll just go on with my tomato garden and you're welcome to cheer me on in the endeavor or just observe with no comment... BUT I HOPE YOU DO COMMENT AND I HOPE YOU DO DECIDE TO DO IT!!!
Monday, July 14, 2008
Day 30: end of the line
- It took more than 30 days! Due to the impossibility of blogging every single day, I was forced to cheat! Conclusion: next time it should be a 12-day photolog over the period of one month. That would give me some time to consider carefully, or to take random pictures for a few days before having to post one of them...
- I didn't follow the rules of using a picture taken on the day itself (picture above is proof of that!) ... too difficult to be uploading pictures from my camera every day. I gotta work, you know! And we aren't allowed to have cameras at work so that means my photo-shooting time is severely limited. Conclusion: same as above - next time I will take photos for a few days and then choose from those taken to use in a 3-a-week photo-blog.
- Using photos really gets the mind working. I like that aspect of it and it was only because of the difficulty of shooting, uploading, choosing, and posting one photo per day that I got so off-track. Conclusion: same as the above - a 12-day photolog spread over one month should be much more interesting and doable!
But I'll tell you what would really help - having a theme! If anyone has a good idea for a photo-log theme, please advise! That would give the whole thing much more content! I'll think on it too. Meanwhile, hope you're enjoying all the lovely sunsets, sunrises, rainbows, blue skies and rainy days too that come your way!
Saturday, July 12, 2008
Day 29 - CLo's an Adult!
NOTE: In this house, we celebrate in a very simple way: somebody makes the cake (or buys it if it's not one of our recipe cakes or if there's no time to make it) on the actual day, then we all come together in the evening, put some candles on it, serve it with or without icecream, coffee/milk, and sit around the table taking pictures and talking about whatever... no big deal, just the family members and maybe a friend or two who happened by... key words here: on the actual day, as in: very spontaneous!
BUT ON THIS BIRTHDAY:
Day 28: The basketball story
Day 27: There's no place like home
Sunday, July 6, 2008
Day 26: Taking the less-traveled path
Saturday, July 5, 2008
Day 25: The Controversial Tree
The window in my study looks out onto a huge "Dollar Tree"; that's how the tree in question and pictured above is known around these parts. I love this tree. As I'm tapping away at the keyboard, I just have to turn my head to the left and there it is, its silvery leaves (hence the reference to silver dollars in the name) shaking softly on their branches, making their characteristic rustling sound (almost like music) in the breeze.
The Dollar tree is known for its devastating roots. They are supposedly shallow roots, unstoppable in their quest for underground territory, which means that over time, they break through the foundations of anything built near the tree. There is some evidence of this, as a small section of our patio has been uprooted and we've had to dig under it, chop through the roots there, and close it back up. According to Car, there is evidence that the roots are trying to get through the cement floor of the utility room, which is the closest to the tree. I haven't noticed any bulging in the floor yet, but I'm willing to wait and find out, because I certainly do not want the alternative Car proposes, which is:
Chop down the tree!
NO!! ABSOLUTELY NOT!! ARE YOU KIDDING?? NO WAY!!
So far, I've managed to keep him from doing it, but if the roots start to come through the floors of the house, I don't know... keep your fingers crossed that we find another way to deal with the situation if the time comes!
Day 24: Independence Day?
P.S. Just to clarify and balance, CLo got a long mention in this blog on her graduation, but no evidential picture, while Samo gets only a short blurb because, as the saying goes, a picture is worth a thousand words!
Day 23: Are there any tomatoes in there?
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Day 22: Reflections on a concert
José González playing his own music
Anto's friend Moni had tickets to see this guitarrist and since Anto had already gone to LA, she asked me if I wanted to go... and I said sure.
It's been a loooong time since I was at a concert like that. In fact, I don't think I've ever been at one quite like that. I mean, I remember back in the 70's going to bars where a group was supposed to playing - you know, Austin is one of the all-time music capitals of the world, ever since Janis Joplin and even before...
But in those places, - one of my faves was Hole-in-the-Wall - the bar would fill up with people and though there was no one playing at first, there were tables and the bar was ample, and there was pool in the back room(s), and you could generally have a good time while you waited for the group to get there, set up and play. You paid your cover and you drank your beer, but you didn't gripe about not seeing the musicians immediately because other things were going on and you could usually find people you hadn't seen in awhile, or if you felt stranded, you could find a place to sit and just people-watch.
But this place!! From the time we arrived, the musician we had come to see was already there. He was sitting outside on the patio, drinking a beer with a buddy and we introduced ourselves saying how excited we were about seeing the show and how relieved that we had gotten there in time, since the flyer said it began at 9 and we got there at 10. He said, 'don't worry, the show hasn't started yet', so we thought, great, we'll go inside, get a table and have a beer while we wait.
Moni had already paid what I consider a tremendous cover, but she assured me it was worth it - 'this guy is soooooooo goooood' - and I really respect her taste in music. She always finds the most incredible videos on youtube and sends me the links.
So we go inside and to our dismay, there are no free tables. Not because the place is too crowded or too small and already filled... no, the place is quite big, but there are only about 10 tables and they're filled of course. There's a bar in the back corner but it's tiny and it's crowded there and it doesn't look like there are barstools there anyway...
So our alternatives are either: to stand around uncomfortably and chitchat above the deafening techno sound system or sit on the cement floor and get stepped on by people traipsing through to the bar. We opt for neither, go back outside to the patio, but have nothing to do there either - plus it's chilly and wet out there... inside, the music is too loud to be able to hold a conversation for more than 2 minutes, and the bar has nothing interesting to look at, listen to, or do, and as for people-watching, that can only distract you for so long.
Here's something curious: the place is large, as I said. There's deafening techno music bouncing off the walls, and there's a huge empty floor.... so why aren't people dancing??? Don't the people in charge realize that if no one is dancing to that music, maybe they need to change it???? Why have a huge dance floor and lots of people, but no one dancing??
Back inside the bar, first we pull chairs up to the outer edge of the row of tables but it's not a good place because waitresses are constantly having to squeeze by with trays of drinks. Then we ask some people if we can sit at their table (they have 2 unoccupied places) and try that for awhile. Finally, we see other people sitting on the floor so we go up to the front and get settled. I'm thinking, okay, this is good, the concert's about to start and we'll be right next to the stage.
And still I'm wondering why we're all just sitting and waiting! Aren't bars supposed to be hopping with action? Since there aren't enough tables for everyone, shouldn't people be milling around, or better yet DANCING?? Why are we all sitting on a cement floor like that, just waiting...?
So the first act starts 30 min. later and it's a girl singer-guitar-player. She's not at all good, but she has a loyal following there that night who cheer her on and applaud wildly, so naturally there's even an encore! I try to find something good in her performance, but it ain't easy... maybe her voice has a nice tone to it, even if the words leave a lot to be desired.
But when she's finished, instead of the main act being announced - the guy we all came to see, the young Swede of Argentinian descent, José González - we get an even more deafening barrage of techno... and it goes on and on... until MIDNIGHT! Yes, that's right... the main act BEGAN at MIDNIGHT!!!
And still we're all sitting on the floor... which by now is resembling a minefield of spilled beer and cigarrette butts!
Well folks, by that time, I was so deafened by the music that had been forced on my ears for over two hours, and my tush was completely numb from the cement floor, and I was tired just because it was late!!! So, I wasn't in the best disposition to fairly critique the music. To me, although José González has a very nice style (all his songs are picked and strummed, the words are flowing and ballad-type), the sound system wrecked the better part of his performance by distorting the guitar when he wanted to add volume, by completely muffling his voice so that it was impossible to understand his lyrics... I'm telling you, it was a pure and simple case of FRUSTRATION!!
I think what I mainly want to say here is this: if you're thinking about opening up a night club, bar or whatever for nighttime entertainment, HAVE SOME CONSIDERATION for your clientele. Have some class!! Don't drown out all sounds of human interaction by too-loud, body-invasive techno beats if the people there clearly demonstrate that they're not interested in dancing to it, don't open a place and charge a cover if you can't even offer your customers a better place to sit than the hard cold floor, and if on top of that, there's no live music for the better part of the night, and ESPECIALLY don't advertise your main act for 9 pm if it's not really going to start until MIDNIGHT!! According to the manager, whom I searched out when it got close to midnight and we were still waiting, the bands have the say of when they will go on, and it's quite "normal" procedure for them to start at midnight... well, if the main band doesn't want to begin earlier, I think owners/managers should feel a certain responsibility toward their customers and make sure that there are other bands or acts that can play earlier... after all, they do have SOME say about the agenda! If they can't find live groups to play on the bill, they can at least choose better piped in music for the intermission... I mean there's something to be said for having a bit of variety you know!